If your spouse is lacking confidence in themselves, they may find it difficult to have confidence in your relationship. Helping them build confidence will ultimately lead to a happier, healthier relationship long-term. So how do you help build confidence? It’s not as hard as you may think.
1. Positive words. Your spouse works hard, deals with difficult people daily and is under a lot of pressure to succeed. Make coming home a place to feel secure, happy and loved. Let your spouse know that you are there for them at the end of a long day to be a shoulder to lean on.
2. Appreciative notes. Leave notes of love and appreciation where your spouse will find them. In their lunch bag, briefcase or car. Or even on the remote control. Include things like “I’m proud of you for working so hard for our family!” “I’m so thankful that I have you in my life!” “You are such a great dad!” Little notes of love will go a long way in building confidence.
3. Loving actions. A kiss, a hug, a foot rub: your spouse should be getting these daily! They will know you appreciate them and have confidence in them by the way you treat them.
4. Responsive heart. Sometimes your spouse needs an extra boost of encouragement and confidence. Be mindful of their emotions; you will be able to sense when they are feeling down or they’ve had a rough day. When your spouse comes home at the end of the day, pay attention to how they act and what they say, it will help you to be more responsive when they need a little extra TLC.
5. Listen. You’re not the only one who needs to talk sometimes. Your spouse has pet peeves they like to harp on and dreams and goals they want to share. When they choose to talk, be there to listen.
6. Ready mind. Great your spouse with affection and words of love when they get home each day. It doesn’t take much to give them a kiss and hug when they walk through the door. It doesn’t take much effort to say “thank you” or “I’m proud of you”. But if you’re not thinking of it ahead of time, you won’t do it.
7. Encourage. Is there something your spouse has always wanted to do but they’ve been too afraid? Offer them some encouragement and motivation to realize their dream. Let them know that you believe in them and you’re there to offer support.
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